How Do I Get Over Someone I Still Love?

You love them. You still love them. And now they’re gone. Fantastic.

Getting over someone you still love is like trying to quit sugar while working in a bakery. It's rough, but it's possible. The key? Distance, discipline, and a damn good support system. By support, it’s not people that will tell you want you want to hear, but ones that care and will listen, but call you out. It’s because they care.

Start by unfollowing their social media. Not because you're petty—because you're healing. Then, write down everything they did that made you feel like shit. Trust me, your brain is selectively forgetting how annoying it was when they chewed like a goat.

Give yourself permission to be a mess for a bit. Cry. Journal. Ugly cry some more. And remember, healing isn’t linear. You’ll have days you want to text them. Don’t. Call your friend instead. Love fades, you won’t die, and someday, they’ll just be a memory that taught you what not to settle for. No pain no gain. You deserve better.

Why Do People Ghost in Relationships?

Let’s be real: ghosting is the emotional equivalent of leaving someone on "read" forever—and it sucks.

Why do people ghost? Usually because:

• They're cowards.

• They lack emotional maturity.

• They think avoiding discomfort is better than facing it.

• They always run from their own problems.

It's not about you. It’s about their inability to communicate like a functional adult. You didn’t deserve to be ignored—you deserved a conversation. They are afraid of the truth and lack basic communication skills.

If they ghosted, let them haunt someone else’s life. Block, delete, bless and release. If they are ghosting, they aren’t worth the problems they will bring later in the relationship.

Should I Take My Ex Back?

Short answer: probably not.

Long answer: You broke up for a reason. Unless that reason has dramatically changed (and no, missing each other doesn't count), chances are the problems are still lurking like that weird smell in your car.

Ask yourself:

• Have they grown?

• Have you grown?

• Are you getting back together out of comfort or genuine compatibility?

• Will the same issue continue to linger?

Don’t fall for nostalgia. That stuff is filtered like Instagram—it’s never the full picture. I have yet to see it ever work out in the long run. Speaking from experience, it usually is a WORSE disaster. Don’t romanticize the relationship.

How Do I Know If I’m in a Toxic Relationship?

Toxic doesn’t always mean obvious. Sometimes it’s subtle: constant criticism, guilt-tripping, silent treatment.

Ask yourself:

• Do I feel drained around them?

• Do I walk on eggshells?

• Have I lost parts of myself?

• Are you always apologizing?

• Are there two sets of rules? One for them and one for you.

That’s not love, it’s emotional erosion. Healthy love feels like safety—not suspense. It many cases, you may be dealing with a narcissist. If that’s the case, RUN AWAY!! I speak from experience on this.

You deserve better. Always. Remember, YOU are the prize.

What Are the Biggest Lies We Tell Ourselves in Love?

We lie to ourselves to make it work. Some confuse Love and Lust.

Lies like:

• "They’ll change."

• "No one else will love me like this."

• "It’s not that bad."

• Maybe it’s me

The truth? You’re convincing yourself to stay in something that isn’t right. Stop selling yourself short just to keep someone who wouldn’t go half as hard for you.

Is It Okay to Stay Friends with an Ex?

Depends, but in most cases, the answer is you shouldn’t.

If you both have boundaries, no lingering feelings, and aren’t secretly hoping to re-spark the flame—it can work. But let’s be real: most ex-friendships are emotional booby traps.

If talking to them still makes your heart skip or your gut drop, you’re not ready. And that’s okay. Distance = clarity.

Ask yourself, if we’re still friends, why did we break up? I have found that when you remain friends with an ex, more often than not, when you get into a difficult situation with your current love, and vent to your ex, it sometimes sparks that old fame.

Some keep their ex around as a safety net and it can put pressure on your current relationship.

How Do I Rebuild Trust After Betrayal?

Oof. This one stings. It will always be the elephant in the room.

Rebuilding trust is like rebuilding a house after a fire—slow, expensive, and requires both parties to do the work. With that said, there is always smoke damage.

Key steps:

• Radical honesty

• Time

• Consistent actions (not just words)

• Don’t constantly bring it up, nor in an argument

If they’re not doing the work, don’t keep pouring your energy into a cracked foundation.

What Are the Signs Someone is Emotionally Unavailable?

If they dodge deep conversations like the plague, avoid commitment, and keep everything surface-level, congrats—you’re dating a ghost in human form.

Signs:

• Hot and cold behavior

• Everything’s "too soon"

• Deflects vulnerability

• They’re constantly talking about their ex

You can’t fix someone who’s not ready to be seen. Don't settle for someone emotionally MIA.

Can a Relationship Survive Infidelity?

Yes—but it’s not for the faint of heart. It’s a VERY DIFFICULT road

You’ll need:

• Full transparency

• Therapy (lots of it)

• A partner who takes responsibility, not just says "sorry"

If they keep blaming you or downplaying it—nope. That’s not remorse, that’s damage control and deflection.

Rebuilding is possible. But it should never be one-sided. Nor can it be brought up constantly. Are you BOTH willing to work past it. It also depends on the circumstances surrounding the infidelity. Many times physical infidelity started with emotional infidelity. There’s usually a bigger issue at play

How Do I Stop Attracting the Wrong People?

You’re not cursed. But you might be repeating patterns. Some people would rather dance with Devil they they know, than one they don’t.

Ask yourself:

• What traits am I drawn to?

• Do I ignore red flags because I’m lonely?

• What would a healthy relationship even look like to me?

• Do you self sabotage, thinking you’re not worthy?

Start by dating yourself. Set standards. Then enforce them like a bouncer at a VIP club. Be the prize. Self exploration and examination are critical steps.

Healing your picker is the first step to better love. Often times, it’s better to be alone than with the wrong person.