After enough dating drama, it’s easy to lose track of what a healthy relationship even feels like.

You get so used to chasing, questioning, explaining, or healing from the last emotional hurricane that when someone treats you with basic respect — you’re suspicious.

Let’s flip the script.

Red flags help you leave. Green flags tell you to stay.

If you’ve ever wondered, Is this what love is supposed to feel like? — this list is for you.

They’re charming. Interesting. Probably hot. They might even be great in bed.
 But emotionally? They’re a locked vault with a “Do Not Disturb” sign taped to it.

If you constantly feel like you’re knocking on a door that never opens, chances are you’re dating someone who’s emotionally unavailable—and let’s be honest, it sucks.

Before you get more attached, let’s break down what that looks like, why it happens, and how to save yourself from the slow, painful spiral that usually follows.