Let’s not pretend we haven’t all been there.

It’s late. You’re alone. You’ve had a drink—or a memory. And suddenly your thumb hovers over their name in your contacts. Maybe it’s “just to check in.” Maybe you want closure. Maybe you miss the sex, the laughs, or the person you thought they were.

So should you text your ex?

Well… maybe. But probably not.

Before you fire off that “hey…” — ask yourself these five questions. Real questions. The kind that save you from emotional whiplash and regret with a side of tequila shame.

Let’s stop pretending this is complicated. If someone wrecked you—emotionally, mentally, or just with sheer inconsistency—the most powerful move you can make is No Contact.

I’m not talking about the kind where you "just check in" on their birthday or still stalk their stories like an emotional private investigator. I mean zero contact. Full blackout. Ghost mode. Radio silence. Nothing.

Not because you’re playing games—but because you’re finally done playing their games.

Here’s exactly what the No Contact Rule is, why it works, and why it’s not just about forgetting them—it’s about remembering you.