Getting over someone you still love feels like trying to quit heroin with nothing but caffeine and Spotify. It’s brutal. It messes with your head. You wake up thinking about them, fall asleep checking your phone, and in between you lie to your friends about how “you’re totally fine.”

Yeah. Been there. More than once. Doesn’t matter if you’re a grown man in your 50s or a woman fresh off her first heartbreak—pain doesn’t care how old you are.

So let’s skip the soft, feel-good advice and get straight to it: how do you actually get over someone who still has your heart—even when you know they shouldn’t?dea.

Missing someone toxic doesn’t mean you’re weak—it means you’re human. Here’s how to deal with the mind games and emotional hangover, straight up and unfiltered.

Let’s just say it: Not getting an apology sucks. It’s one of the most frustrating, unfair, soul-bruising things that can happen in a breakup—or hell, in life.

They hurt you. They lied. They ghosted, cheated, manipulated, disrespected—or maybe they just casually stomped on your heart like it was no big deal. And then they moved on like nothing happened.

And there you are. Still waiting. Still angry. Still replaying what you should’ve said. And most of all—still hoping they’ll show up one day and say the magic words: “I’m sorry.”

Whether it ended with a long, painful conversation or a single text at 2 a.m., the result is the same: you’re left picking up the emotional rubble while they move on like nothing happened.

But here’s the good news: the breakup didn’t break you. It’s just the push you didn’t want but probably needed.

Welcome to Breakup Recovery 101—a no-BS guide to getting back on your feet.

It starts sweet. Texts all day. Over-the-top compliments. “You’re different.” “I’ve never felt this way before.” Three dates in, and they’re talking about vacations, soulmates, and maybe even what your kids would look like. Slow your roll, Casanova. That’s not romance. That’s manipulation in a nice shirt.